Dress 10 Pounds Thinner Part 9

Does it surprise you to learn that shoes can help you look thinner? We all know they can make you look taller by wearing high heels, but there is more to it than that.

Many of today’s popular shoes don’t stop at the top of the foot. Some come up to the ankle with lacing or straps. Some boots even go over the top of the knee.

  • An important consideration when choosing the right shoe for an outfit is the length of the skirt, dress, or pants to be worn with it. If the hemline falls to the knee, a higher rise of the shoe or boot on the foot works.

But if the hemline falls mid-calf, it is best to keep the top of the shoe as close to the toes as possible. Or wear a boot that rises above the hemline. This gives the appearance of more leg.

However, ankle pants can be worn with a shoe that laces or straps up to the ankle.  The effect is that of showing off the shoe without seeming to have cut off the leg.

  • Another consideration is color. To make your legs seem longer, choose a nude color shoe. Dark colors stop the eye.

A case to illustrate both of these considerations is a woman who wore a dark dress to an event. The dress length was mid-calf. The dress was beautiful and fit her slightly overweight figure well. The problem was the length of the dress and her shoes. The hemline of the dress stopped at the widest part of her leg. As we’ve previously discussed, this was not the best option for her. The shoes she chose matched the color of the dress and laced up to just above her ankle. Her fair skin against the dark colors of the dress and shoes made her legs look stubby. This was not the effect she wanted.

She could have still worn the dress if she had chosen a nude pump for the shoe. Or, she could have worn the shoes if the dress was either shorter, at knee length, or longer, at ankle length.

The next time you get dressed, pay attention to your shoes. You want your legs to look long and sleek. Do your shoes help create this effect?

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In Honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month

“Honey, will you make me some juice while I pull out my hair?” I said as I rolled over in bed to face my husband.

“Sure, babe,” he said.

After a bit, I heard the whir and grinding of the juice machine and knew it was time. Dredging up energy, I crawled out of bed and staggered to the kitchen. I grabbed the big trash can from the closet and dragged it into the bathroom. Sitting on the toilet lid, I began pulling wads of hair from my head–beautiful, long, curly hair.

Chemotherapy for breast cancer had loosened the folicles so much, I was afraid a stiff wind might blow my hair right off of my head.

Bo found me there, with tears on my face. “Let’s get you back to bed. You’ll feel better after you drink this,” he said.

I did feel stronger after drinking the juice, but not better. No tears would bring my hair back that day. I did own a wig that was stylish and cute. But it wasn’t my hair.

One year later, I stopped wearing that wig. I needed to go to the bank. ┬áJust before I opened the door to enter, a big gust of wind blew my wig off! It rolled across the ground like a big tumbleweed. I chased it down when it hung up on a bush and snatched it just before it blew all the way across the parking lot. That’s when I knew it was time.

Now, I love windy days. I can feel my hair moving in the breeze and am confident it will not blow off.

Today I chose to tell this story in honor of those who are suffering through chemotherapy.

If you know someone who is a cancer patient right now, what can you do to help her?

  • Go visit her. Talk to her about normal, everyday things. Her life is abnormal, and she needs to get in touch with normal, if only for an hour.
  • Find out what her “comfort foods” are and bring her some. Find out what her family likes to eat and bring a meal.
  • Volunteer to transport her to treatment.
  • Don’t question decisions she makes about her treatment. Rest assured, she has carefully considered them.
  • If she feels like it, take her shopping for shoes. Her clothing size may change as a result of treatment and surgery, but her shoe size won’t.
  • Send her a funny card.
  • Pray for her, and tell her you are. Maybe make (or buy) a bracelet to remind her of your prayers.
  • Give her a daily flip-calendar with encouraging words and Bible verses on it.
  • Send her uplifting text and/or social media messages.

Theses are just a few suggestions. I’m sure you can come up with others. The main thing is to be sensitive to her needs and desires. And the best way to find those out is to talk to her.

Many times, we don’t know what to say to some one facing difficult circumstances, so we avoid them. It happened to me. While I understood the dynamic, it still hurt that those who I thought were my friends couldn’t find one hour to come sit with me.

I’m fine now, six years later. My body has healed, and my friendships survived too.

Thanks to new research, chemo and radiation treatments have improved. But they still make for a terrible experience.

Many organizations are raising money for research into more effective, less invasive treatments. This is crucial. My cancer was Triple Negative Breast Cancer. No one knows what causes this kind yet, and hormone therapy does not work to treat it.

So I ask you to choose a way you will honor cancer patients, and give so we can better understand and treat this terrible disease.

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My New Website is Live

After a long, tortuous ordeal (because there is not a tech-savvy bone in my body) my new website has launched. I am sure there will be things I still need to learn how to do, but at least the framework is up.

Whew! Thank you for waiting and hanging in there with me. Right now, if you want to get my new posts in your email, you’ll need to go to the site to become an email follower. Since I started from scratch, nothing transferred over from my old site. I’m sorry for the inconvenience, but I don’t want you to miss any of the fun, and inspirational. things to come.

Come chase beautiful with me!


Welcome to My New Site

I’m so excited to reveal my new website design. I hope this site will help you get a better idea of who I am and what I do.

It will allow me to offer much more content and resources that I hope you will find helpful.

I’m looking forward to several new, exciting developments in both my writing and speaking ministries. By following this blog, you’ll be the first to hear about them.

In the book of Daniel, chapter ten, Daniel had been fasting and praying when the Lord gave him a vision by the Tigris River. In the previous chapter, he records a prayer confessing the sins of the Israelites. I believe God chose to reveal his message to Daniel because of his willingness to confess, fast, and pray. He just wanted to be God’s man.

These chapters have been instructive to me in recent weeks. It is my desire to be God’s woman, whatever that may look like, and whatever He may want me to do. Some of it is scary, like building this new website. Some of it is just plain fun. But it all is God’s plan, and His only. I’m just along for the ride.

So come with me, why don’t you? Sign up to be an email follower of this blog (since nothing transferred over from the old one.) That not only helps me, but assures that you won’t miss out on any announcements or freebies.

Come chase beautiful with me!